Our first time really talking was on 11/29/2018. It was the Thursday after Thanksgiving and I wished it were Christmas already. After our long walk, I was a mess. A.COMPLETE.MESS!!! How do you meet someone that you can open up so completely to without fear of judgment? that only happens in RomComs and I don't really watch those types of movies. But here I was, stunned af at home talking to my ancestors and asking them what the hell just happened today at work. Even the tarot said something magical just occurred and every cell in my body felt the exchange.
The next morning, I'm not even sure if I said my prayers, I went to work without eyebrows. Ok so let me clear this up. I do have actual, natural brows. However, after a steamy moment with a grill in 2010, they've grown in rather sparcely. Can I live without brow judgement people??
So I go to work without my brows or earrings. And wearing a shirt that was not ironed. Now I work in IT so no one really cares about neatness besides myself and 10 other people. Every nerve ending in my body was on high alert and had me walking around like a crackhead in the daytime. Sorry if I offend drug users, but if you grew up in the 80's, you know what I mean. Anyway I was fast walking and talking with my afro looking like it was caught in a windstorm. Because I have to be professional, I found an airbush and a ponytail holder to keep it in check. Atleast that's what I told myself.
THANK GOD SOLOMON WAS ON PTO!!! Whew when the Universe hears prayers, they are answered. Man oh man. The last thing I needed to do was walk into him while in the state of Shook.
I had to talk to someone that knows us both so I caught up with my homie Preach.
"I gotta talk to about something...someone. Let's walk."
"Uh oh...should I be afraid?"
"Probably!"
Now Preach is afraid of heights, and my favorite place to walk in the building is on the 5th floor. There aren't a lot of people up there and less construction is happening as well. Preach was so concerned about me, that he didn't protest when I pressed 5.
"What do you know about Solomon?"
"He's a good dude. Just real quiet but really wise." Now you know why I have penned him with the name.
"He and I talked for a long time yesterday about every topic possible. I didn't like him and now my heart is about to jump out of my chest. Look at me! I'm a complete mess!"
The LAUUUUUGHHH he gave was so hurtful to my poor little ego. He thought I was about to quit or something happened to someone in my family. But this was me actually revealing that I do in fact have a beating heart. And I'm actually a girl.
"I saw you two talking downstairs and it looked deep (laugh). We said your name but you didn't hear us." Yeah I heard nothing. I went on to tell him about yesterday and how I shared parts of my life that I don't tell anyone with Solomon. And that he didn't judge or even flinch. He just took it all in, asked more questions and understood. How he seemed like someone I knew my whole life.
I was clapping my hands together at times to release the nervous energy. Again, it was like all of my nerve endings were becoming exposed and I needed to control the flow.
"Is he married?"
"No."
"Does he have a girlfriend?"
"No...wait I'm not sure but he hasn't talked about one. I don't think so. You know he's very private."
"Does he have children?"
"No."
Intuitively I knew the answers to all of those questions, but with the craziness going on inside, I had to ask.
After our walk I got back to my desk and guess who popped up on the slack channel? You guessed it, Solomon. Why are you playing with me again today Destiny? I message him asking if he was coming in, to which he replied no. He'd be back only one day next week and then out for the rest of the year. We set up a time to meet to actually discuss the project process and that was that.
Monday morning rolled around and for some reason he and I had another conversation on Slack. Uhmmm why was he always online during PTO? I found out his birthday was going to be on the 13th, and he'd be 33. Of course with that information, I read his natal chart.
The following Wednesday, we were scheduled to meet up. I was dressed in my best, Freakum Wakanda Forever outfit. It shows my shape and my cultural awareness. "Hoe-Tep" finest. My crew and I were in a meeting room, making sure the make up looked good aka my eyebrows, and ensuring I had all the nerves removed. Crew = three of us, both of them know Solomon and I. Well he comes walking by, looking for another meeting that he's late to. We have glass doors with only the middle covered in a frosted tint, for all meeting rooms and offices, so we saw him walk by.
I casually walk out of the door, acting like I had to get some hot chocolate. It's my thing, don't judge. And faked the biggest surprise face when I saw him sitting there.
"Oh hey! We're still meeting today right?" I'm sure he saw through me but whatevz.
"11:30...yep. But I can't find where my team is meeting right now."
"Oh I saw them walk down there (pointing) about 10 minutes ago. They are probably still down there. I'm in a meeting now in room (blah blah blah) so just come in when you're done."
"Cool see you in 30."
I actually do get hot chocolate and hurry back to the conference room giddy as a school girl. It's so weird.
Let me tell you about Solomon. He's 13 years younger than me, but life experience has made him wise. Egyptian by culture but an American city guy by nurture. College degreed with a Street education. He's extremely private and loyal. His family is his pride and priority, especially his mother. Deeply, Deeply, Deeply spiritual and understanding. However, he doesn't believe in time. Did I mention he's 13 years my junior? Kay...just checking.
After his meeting, he tapped on our door and we had to act like we were discussing some UI design. He came in and sat for a minute. After some small talk, the crew left.
"Sorry about that. Just trying to tie up some loose ends with this project before I'm out in a week."
"It's all good. I was able to catch up on a couple of emails"
We talked about the process for the product. Actually we created a new process which works out better for dev teams as a whole. Neither of us wanted to go back to our desks, so we decided to take a walk.
"Oh the Market is here today. I want to take you by the person I get my candles and crystals from. She's so dope and you'll like her products." Since he was going to be my manager, he needed to see what started the path. So we went to her booth and he had lots and lots of questions. This dude needs alot of information to process everything. It's all from the feeling of what's being presented to him, and if it feels right with his soul.
"Pick out a candle. It's your birthday gift." He was shocked. Genuinely shocked. But decided to walk around and talk some more before making a choice.
At that point we talked until around 1 pm and needed to get back to our desks. By the way, my FitBit looooves these walks. I upped my steps to 13,000 per day just to keep up. We agreed to meet up again around 4 to go back and pick up a candle.
4 pm comes around and we walk again for about an hour. What did we talk about? Family, dreams, God. We talked about how we both love the water, but I'm the only one that can swim. He told me about visiting his family in Egypt and how seeing the culture first hand feeds his soul. How my father is the reason why I love music so much. Not just the songs but the bend of the notes and how I can visualize the flow.
Basically, we talked about anything that came to our minds except, "do you feel this spark that says we've done this before or is it just me?" But really, we didn't need to say something we already knew.
Around 6 pm, he chose the Inspiration candle. It was the same one he liked at noon. Yes it takes that long for him to process something. <insert eyeroll>. We spent a little more time talking. Mostly about our PTO plans. Both of us were essentially going to be off for 3 weeks and excited about having a break from the job. Also, for us both, 2018 was a hellacious year, so 2019 would receive a warm welcome.
Around 6:30, we parted ways for the final time in 2018.
The next morning, I'm not even sure if I said my prayers, I went to work without eyebrows. Ok so let me clear this up. I do have actual, natural brows. However, after a steamy moment with a grill in 2010, they've grown in rather sparcely. Can I live without brow judgement people??
So I go to work without my brows or earrings. And wearing a shirt that was not ironed. Now I work in IT so no one really cares about neatness besides myself and 10 other people. Every nerve ending in my body was on high alert and had me walking around like a crackhead in the daytime. Sorry if I offend drug users, but if you grew up in the 80's, you know what I mean. Anyway I was fast walking and talking with my afro looking like it was caught in a windstorm. Because I have to be professional, I found an airbush and a ponytail holder to keep it in check. Atleast that's what I told myself.
THANK GOD SOLOMON WAS ON PTO!!! Whew when the Universe hears prayers, they are answered. Man oh man. The last thing I needed to do was walk into him while in the state of Shook.
I had to talk to someone that knows us both so I caught up with my homie Preach.
"I gotta talk to about something...someone. Let's walk."
"Uh oh...should I be afraid?"
"Probably!"
Now Preach is afraid of heights, and my favorite place to walk in the building is on the 5th floor. There aren't a lot of people up there and less construction is happening as well. Preach was so concerned about me, that he didn't protest when I pressed 5.
"What do you know about Solomon?"
"He's a good dude. Just real quiet but really wise." Now you know why I have penned him with the name.
"He and I talked for a long time yesterday about every topic possible. I didn't like him and now my heart is about to jump out of my chest. Look at me! I'm a complete mess!"
The LAUUUUUGHHH he gave was so hurtful to my poor little ego. He thought I was about to quit or something happened to someone in my family. But this was me actually revealing that I do in fact have a beating heart. And I'm actually a girl.
"I saw you two talking downstairs and it looked deep (laugh). We said your name but you didn't hear us." Yeah I heard nothing. I went on to tell him about yesterday and how I shared parts of my life that I don't tell anyone with Solomon. And that he didn't judge or even flinch. He just took it all in, asked more questions and understood. How he seemed like someone I knew my whole life.
I was clapping my hands together at times to release the nervous energy. Again, it was like all of my nerve endings were becoming exposed and I needed to control the flow.
"Is he married?"
"No."
"Does he have a girlfriend?"
"No...wait I'm not sure but he hasn't talked about one. I don't think so. You know he's very private."
"Does he have children?"
"No."
Intuitively I knew the answers to all of those questions, but with the craziness going on inside, I had to ask.
After our walk I got back to my desk and guess who popped up on the slack channel? You guessed it, Solomon. Why are you playing with me again today Destiny? I message him asking if he was coming in, to which he replied no. He'd be back only one day next week and then out for the rest of the year. We set up a time to meet to actually discuss the project process and that was that.
Monday morning rolled around and for some reason he and I had another conversation on Slack. Uhmmm why was he always online during PTO? I found out his birthday was going to be on the 13th, and he'd be 33. Of course with that information, I read his natal chart.
The following Wednesday, we were scheduled to meet up. I was dressed in my best, Freakum Wakanda Forever outfit. It shows my shape and my cultural awareness. "Hoe-Tep" finest. My crew and I were in a meeting room, making sure the make up looked good aka my eyebrows, and ensuring I had all the nerves removed. Crew = three of us, both of them know Solomon and I. Well he comes walking by, looking for another meeting that he's late to. We have glass doors with only the middle covered in a frosted tint, for all meeting rooms and offices, so we saw him walk by.
I casually walk out of the door, acting like I had to get some hot chocolate. It's my thing, don't judge. And faked the biggest surprise face when I saw him sitting there.
"Oh hey! We're still meeting today right?" I'm sure he saw through me but whatevz.
"11:30...yep. But I can't find where my team is meeting right now."
"Oh I saw them walk down there (pointing) about 10 minutes ago. They are probably still down there. I'm in a meeting now in room (blah blah blah) so just come in when you're done."
"Cool see you in 30."
I actually do get hot chocolate and hurry back to the conference room giddy as a school girl. It's so weird.
Let me tell you about Solomon. He's 13 years younger than me, but life experience has made him wise. Egyptian by culture but an American city guy by nurture. College degreed with a Street education. He's extremely private and loyal. His family is his pride and priority, especially his mother. Deeply, Deeply, Deeply spiritual and understanding. However, he doesn't believe in time. Did I mention he's 13 years my junior? Kay...just checking.
After his meeting, he tapped on our door and we had to act like we were discussing some UI design. He came in and sat for a minute. After some small talk, the crew left.
"Sorry about that. Just trying to tie up some loose ends with this project before I'm out in a week."
"It's all good. I was able to catch up on a couple of emails"
We talked about the process for the product. Actually we created a new process which works out better for dev teams as a whole. Neither of us wanted to go back to our desks, so we decided to take a walk.
"Oh the Market is here today. I want to take you by the person I get my candles and crystals from. She's so dope and you'll like her products." Since he was going to be my manager, he needed to see what started the path. So we went to her booth and he had lots and lots of questions. This dude needs alot of information to process everything. It's all from the feeling of what's being presented to him, and if it feels right with his soul.
"Pick out a candle. It's your birthday gift." He was shocked. Genuinely shocked. But decided to walk around and talk some more before making a choice.
At that point we talked until around 1 pm and needed to get back to our desks. By the way, my FitBit looooves these walks. I upped my steps to 13,000 per day just to keep up. We agreed to meet up again around 4 to go back and pick up a candle.
4 pm comes around and we walk again for about an hour. What did we talk about? Family, dreams, God. We talked about how we both love the water, but I'm the only one that can swim. He told me about visiting his family in Egypt and how seeing the culture first hand feeds his soul. How my father is the reason why I love music so much. Not just the songs but the bend of the notes and how I can visualize the flow.
Basically, we talked about anything that came to our minds except, "do you feel this spark that says we've done this before or is it just me?" But really, we didn't need to say something we already knew.
Around 6 pm, he chose the Inspiration candle. It was the same one he liked at noon. Yes it takes that long for him to process something. <insert eyeroll>. We spent a little more time talking. Mostly about our PTO plans. Both of us were essentially going to be off for 3 weeks and excited about having a break from the job. Also, for us both, 2018 was a hellacious year, so 2019 would receive a warm welcome.
Around 6:30, we parted ways for the final time in 2018.
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